Care is about doing things that help you feel better when life gets tough. It can be simple actions that comfort, distract, or relax you. Care can come from yourself, others, or your community.
Types of care
Self-soothing
Things you do to comfort yourself, like:
- Sitting in a safe place
- Spending time outdoors
- Using a soft blanket or sensory toy
- Listening to music
- Having a warm drink
- Hugging someone (or yourself)
Self-care activities
Regular practices to keep you healthy:
- Meditation or listening to calming sounds
- Exercise or movement that works for your body’s needs
- Hobbies you enjoy
Community care
Support from people around you:
- Friends and chosen family
- LGBTQ+ support groups
- Healthcare or Community Care services
- QLife
Tip: Make a list of supportive people and services. It’s okay if it’s short.
Structural care
Accessible public funded services, like:
- Healthcare and Gender Affirming Care
- Employment support services and Fair Work Rights
- Public transport
- Childcare
More self-care ideas
For comfort:
- Change room lighting or temperature
- Use scents you like
- Cuddle a pet
- Use a weighted blanket
For distraction:
- Do some cleaning or cooking
- Play a game
- Call a friend
- Watch a movie
- Try a hobby (knitting, colouring, gaming)
For relaxation:
- Try deep breathing or meditation
- Take a warm bath
- Do gentle stretches or yoga
- Visualize a calm place
- Use a meditation app like Smiling Mind (free)
Crisis support
If you’re in crisis:
- Tell someone how you feel
- Use a crisis or LGBTQ+ peer support service
- Make and use a safety plan
- Find a safe place and let someone know where you are
- Let yourself cry or express emotions
Remember: Your feelings are valid, and you deserve support. Reach out to LGBTQ+ affirming services in NSW when you need help.
For more information about supporting yourself through crisis, check out this page.